The magic of being kind to yourself.
Choice by choice, your mood and energy spiral up. When you make a mistake (like we all do) it doesn’t have to become a downward spiral. Your next choice can make all the difference. Say “it’s OK, what matters now?” and follow that path back up.
There is no set of rules to follow for Body Kindness because rules don’t create habits – choices do.
With Body Kindness you will learn how to make the best choices for you, consistently, until they become habits.
This philosophy is the foundation of the Body Kindness book and my approach to wellbeing.
Make choices from a place of love. (What creates a better life?)
Check in with your body and respond to your needs. (sleep, food, a deep breath, a good laugh, or maybe a good orgasm?!)
Fully commit to your self-care (no matter what).
When you practice within these three pillars of Body Kindness, you bring self-acceptance, self-compassion, and positive motivation to follow your deepest desires for a healthy mind and body.
Most important, your weight or shape has nothing to do with your ability to practice body kindness nor do they define your success. They simply are. These “numbers” may change over time for a myriad of reasons. The more you let go of an attachment to controlling them, the more free you become.
What about guidelines for “the best” food choices?
I believe, for most people, it’s unhelpful to label individual foods as healthy or not. We pursue health through the way we live our lives. Health isn’t just given to us because we ate something pure and it’s not taken away when we eat something less than perfect. Just like everything else in life, when it comes to food choices, there is a feel-good balance. And the “sweet spot” is where taste, pleasure, and nutrition combine.
I follow the science and make plenty of recommendations in the book. I prefer to give tailored advice, like when I counsel clients, because we are all different. There can be high variability in our schedules, tastes preferences, and personal interests in cooking. Also, one person may have a medical concern that someone else does not share.
Nevertheless, there are guidelines that tend to benefit most people and I lay it out there for you in the book. For example, there’s pretty strong evidence that eating wholesome, nutritious foods helps your body work optimally from great poops to a strong immune system. But you’re not going to hear things like “it’s body kindness if you cut out sugar and flour”. (You can get that from diet books.) Instead, Body Kindness teaches you how to think for yourself more effortlessly so you can get on with enjoying your life instead of constantly working on your health.
I share my best evidence-based guidance for eating, exercise, sleep and other good habits in the book along with the best strategies for putting my advice into practice and I make it memorable with real-life stories from people I’ve worked with over the years.